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Bullying: Signs of Bullying & Victimization

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Bullying
A relationship problem that requires relationship solutions, bullying is a type of abuse that can take different forms at different ages. You’ll find helpful information and useful links in this module.
   

There is not always a sure way to tell whether your mentee has been affected by bullying, as each child’s situation is unique. However there are common signs of bullying that may help you assess your mentee’s situation:

Signs a child or youth may be bullying others:

  • Little concern for others’ feelings
  • Does not recognize impact of his/her behaviour on others
  • Aggressive with siblings, parents/guardians, teachers, friends, and animals
  • Bossy and manipulative
  • Possessing unexplained objects and/or extra money
  • Secretive about possessions, activities, and whereabouts
  • Holds a positive attitude towards aggression
  • Easily frustrated and quick to anger

When a child or youth bullies, what relationship pressures or role modelling may they be experiencing?

  • Parents/guardians may model use of power and aggression by yelling, hitting, rejecting child
  • Parents/guardians may model use of power and aggression with each other
  • Siblings may bully child at home
  • Child has friends who bully and are aggressive
  • Child has trouble standing up to peer pressure
  • Teachers or coaches may model use of power and aggression by yelling, excluding, rejecting
  • Few opportunities to shine and show talents at home, school, or in the community

Signs a child or youth may be a victim:

  • Not wanting to go to school or participate in extra-curricular activities
  • Anxious, fearful, over-reactive
  • Exhibits low self-esteem and makes negative comments about him/herself
  • Headaches and stomach aches
  • Lower interest and performance in school
  • Loses things, needs money, reports being hungry after school
  • Injuries, bruising, damaged clothing, broken things
  • Unhappy, irritable, little interest in activities
  • Trouble sleeping, nightmares, bedwetting
  • Expresses threats to hurt himself/herself or others

When a child or youth is victimized, what relationship pressures or role modelling may they be experiencing?

  • Parents/guardians may be overprotective, restrictive
  • Siblings may bully child at home 
  • Lonely and isolated at school 
  • Few friends at school or in neighbourhood 
  • Teachers may be unaware of child’s strengths and challenges and therefore unresponsive to needs. 
  • Few opportunities to shine and show talents at home, school, or in the community