Bullying: Tips to Share with Your Mentee

A relationship problem that requires relationship solutions, bullying is a type of abuse that can take different forms at different ages. You’ll find helpful information and useful links in this module.

Tips for children and youth who are bullied

  • If it’s hard for you to stand up for yourself, ignore the bullying, walk away, and tell someone who can help.
  • Talk to someone you trust, such as a parent, teacher, mentor or coach.
  • If you’re scared to talk to an adult on your own, ask a friend to go with you.
  • Go to areas where you feel safe.
  • Stay close to students you can count on to stick up for you.
  • Look confident and tell the child who bullies to back off.
  • Stay calm and try not to show that you are upset.
  • Use humour to show that you’re not bothered.
  • Be assertive, not aggressive - fighting back often makes the bullying worse.
  • Remember that no one deserves to be bullied.

Tips for children and youth who witness bullying

  • Talk to someone you trust, such as a parent or a teacher. Remember that if you tell someone, you’re helping the child being bullied.
  • If you walk away and get help, you are part of the solution. If you stay and watch, you are part of the problem.
  • Stand up for children who are bullied - often they can’t do it themselves.
  • Invite children who are bullied to play with you somewhere else.
  • Comfort the person who was hurt and make it known that what happened was not fair or deserved.
  • If it is hard for you to speak out against bullying on your own, ask a friend to do it with you.
  • The best thing you can do for kids who are bullied is to be their friend.

Tips for children and youth who bully

  • Talk to someone you trust, such as a parent, teacher, high school counsellor or coach. They can help you find ways to get along with others.
  • Ask a friend to help you stop if you start to bully others.
  • Set goals each day to make it easier not to bully (e.g., Keep cool; Today I’ll help others rather than hurt them).
  • Understand that you may not like everyone around you but that you do have to treat them with respect.
  • Appreciate every child and youth is different. Different doesn’t mean worse or better than you.
  • Put yourself in others’ shoes - would you want to be picked on, put down, or left out?
  • Apologize to the children or youth you have bullied.
  • Know that if other children watch and laugh, it doesn’t mean they like it when you bully.
  • Be a real leader and treat others with respect.